In today’s frankly fragmented and fractured society, people no longer enjoy the deep kind of social connections they had before. We might feel like we are never listened to, never heard, never understood. This makes us unconsciously hog attention when we do have a conversation, but it’s a vicious cycle—the other person responds by trying to grab it back, and so, instead of a genuine sharing of connection, we end up using dialogue as a kind of tug-of-war. Add to this the scourge of social media, which has many of us internalizing some pretty strange ideas about what conversation and social
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