Shame researchers June Tangney and Ronda Dearing explain that one strategy for protecting ourselves during a shaming experience is to “turn the tables” and shift blame outward. In their research, they found that when we blame others we often experience self-righteous anger. Because anger is an emotion of potency and authority, being angry can help us regain a sense of control. Regaining control is important because shame leaves us feeling worthless, paralyzed and ineffective.
