When we find ourselves seeking sympathy, it is helpful to step back and think about what we are really feeling, what it is we’re seeking and what we really need. On the other hand, when we are asked to give sympathy, we have to decide if we want to simply give it and move on or really try to connect and develop empathy. If we want to develop connection and understanding, sometimes the best way to practice compassion is to say, “It sounds like you are in a hard place, tell me more about it,” or “You’re right, I don’t know what that’s like. What is it like? Help me understand.”
