women, connection is about mutual support, shared experiences, acceptance and belonging. As you can see in the illustration on page 48, individuals and groups that may enforce the expectations that create shame in one area can turn out to be a valued source of connection building in another area. In relationships, we are given threads. We can use these threads to weave webs that trap others or to weave blankets of support. It’s our choice. For example, a colleague might be a tremendous source of connection around shame experiences that develop from professional situations, yet he or she might
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