When I asked what she did to meet these goals, she very confidently started listing simple, measurable (they happen or they don’t), tangible objectives. She said: “I get sleep—I’m a better parent when I’m well rested. Even though it’s difficult, I keep my sons on schedules so they feel good. I read a lot of parenting books—when they’re good I use the advice, when they aren’t, I don’t. When I see another parent doing something well, I ask him or her about
