last, but certainly not least, I don’t like anything that’s brutal, including honesty. Honesty is the best policy, but honesty that’s motivated by shame, anger, fear or hurt is not “honesty.” It’s shame, anger, fear or hurt disguised as honesty. Just because something is accurate or factual doesn’t mean it can’t be used in a destructive manner. The shame web is often baited with honesty. It gives the shamer an easy comeback—“Well, I’m just telling
