This goes back to the sentence that launched this entire journey for me: You cannot shame or belittle people into changing. This means we can’t use self-hate to lose weight, we can’t shame ourselves into becoming better parents and we can’t belittle ourselves or our families into becoming who we need them to be. Putting people on the “loser board” doesn’t work. Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change.
