Impossible Marriages Redeemed: They Didn't End the Story in the Middle

by Leila Miller

When divorce isn’t an option, all other options become more realistic. When divorce isn’t sought after, healing is.

“How do you go back to a marriage that is so broken?” My answer is, “You don’t.” That old marriage must die and a new one must begin.

There is never a good reason not to uphold your spouse’s dignity—in front of the kids, in front of friends and family, in private conversations with your spouse, and even in your own mind where nobody else can see or hear. Belittling, cold-shouldering, name-calling, and tearing down or undermining your spouse’s dignity in any way is always destructive and never helpful, demonstrating an absence of unconditional love. Even negative humor is far from harmless. It’s not funny; it’s a visceral personal attack on your spouse’s dignity.