But there’s an upside, as that discomfort is now how I know I need to listen and that it’s actually good for me. I learned recently that if I change my relationship to the feedback and don’t take it personally—i.e., as an attack on me—and instead think of it as a way to help myself grow to become a better man, friend, human, etc., then I am not only able to hear it better, but I can also reframe it as a challenge and actually implement the feedback. This reframing has perhaps been one of the most important steps in my personal growth.
