You can acknowledge your bad patterns of behavior in relationships. You can analyze how they developed. You can do the work to make sure you never behave like that again. But that’s all you will ever be able to control. You cannot predict how another person is going to behave in a relationship. You can risk-assess, you can be cautious, you can make sensible decisions about who you choose to trust and invite into your life and heart. But you can’t manage the unruly variables of another living, breathing human. To choose to love is to take a risk. Always. That’s why it’s called falling—no one
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