Becoming Duchess Goldblatt

by Duchess Goldblatt

The only way to be reliably sure the hero gets the girl at the end of the story is to be both the hero and the girl yourself.

I think any time we’re trying to understand what’s happening in relationships today, and we want to know the reasons for our choices, we need to look back. Everything goes back to the family of origin.”

“We have to love other people regardless of their actions and without any hope of reward. Even our enemies deserve our grace.”

The trick is to be superhuman, but only when you have to. The rest of the time I recommend looking out the window. Maybe have a sandwich.

When you get married, you start building a civilization. Everyone says you’re not just marrying a spouse, you’re marrying their family, too.

When someone you love dies, you lose them in pieces over time, but you also get them back in pieces: little fragments of memory come rushing back through what they cared about, what brought them joy. If you’re lucky, you get little pieces back for the rest of your life.

If you have the education, wits, and leisure time to pursue your own interests, you have it better than 99% of the people who ever lived.

If you’ve ever wondered what the right thing is to say to someone who’s grieving a death, I think this is it: Tell me all about your dear one.