The Chaos Kind (John Rain, #11, Livia Lone, #5)

by Barry Eisler

But if there was one thing she had learned in this man’s world, it was the danger of doing anything that could be disparaged as “emotional.” Men could shout, they could rant, they could even cry, and they were just being assertive, or passionate, or caring. But for women, the same behaviors were bitchy. Or unhinged. Or worst of all, weak.

If you want to get something you never had before, you have to do something you’ve never done before.