Happiness Unlimited

by B.K. Shivani

Happiness is only possible when we are able to accept everyone as they are. That means an end to judging or resisting others, an end to complaining and blaming, an end to criticising and controlling, and an end to competing with anyone.

Meditation is not about stopping the thinking process. It is about becoming aware of my thoughts and choosing my thoughts.

I can keep on writing your script—how you should be, how you should talk, how you should perform, how you should behave. Will you follow my script? No. What a waste of time and energy. I write the scripts of so many co-actors in my life, and none of them are going to use my script.

every thought I create gives rise to a feeling, and the feeling develops my attitude. The attitude comes out as action, repeated action becomes habit. Habit develops my personality and my personality determines my destiny.

Since we seek acceptance, appreciation and approval from people around us.

We misunderstand because we are hurt. We are in pain. When in pain we will never see the situation in the right perspective.

Even while doing for others, we are satisfying some vacuum within ourselves. So it is actually being selfish.

Think of your wife getting angry or behaving in a slightly different manner. It could be a sign that she needs help. However, you move one step behind and think you will come back later. But right now she needs you more. It’s because you are not able to take care of yourself that you move away. This is not support. We are not there for each other emotionally, though physically we are living in the same house. We are not there to heal each other because we have not healed ourselves.

The energy we receive from someone who accepts us unconditionally heals our pain.

In relationships, no one is ever wrong. Each one is right from their own perspective. Detaching from our perspective and understanding the other’s perspective is empathy.

Happiness is only possible when we accept everyone as they are, at every moment, in every situation. That means an end to judging or resisting others, an end to complaining, an end to criticising or controlling and an end to competing. It means the awakening of self-responsibility. It is only when we choose thoughts and feelings aligned with our true nature of peace, love and power, that we shift from asking to sharing, from holding on to letting go, from expectations to acceptance, from the past and the future to being in the now. We create a life of joy, contentment and bliss, because we have the choice and the power. Happiness is a Decision.