Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: And Other Rituals to Fix Your Life, from Someone Who's Been There

by Tara Schuster

I USED TO MAKE A terrible mistake. One of the ways I used to be cruelest to myself was when I shared information, secrets, or dreams with people who would treat my confidences with zero care.

What I learned from Kate and Professor Laurie is that there’s no point in seeking false idols. Do not look for the approval of someone you think will make you approve of yourself. Approve of yourself first, just as you are (see the last chapter, and Bridget Jones), and if you need support from others, trust the people who are in your corner.

What I have learned is that you are stronger when you give yourself incredible kindness.

“Having a sense of security in one realm gives us the freedom to be original in another,”

She understood that taking yourself seriously, having a room of your own, is KEY to creating the most authentic version of you.

Even if you are not living in your dream home, even if you are living in a far cry from your dream home, by treating your space with care, attention, and a little organization, you will feel better about your life overall, because you will have made active choices about how you want to live.

To have faith in yourself, you must build faith in yourself, and the best way I know to do that is through physical activities.

My advice to you is to pay attention to what impression you are making on the world and be sure it’s one you love and adore, or at least don’t hate. My advice to you is to be very careful about how you talk about yourself, because, very often, the people around you are listening.

The way a person treats you has almost nothing to do with you. It’s about them and their limitations.