So, how are you? Vivian wants to know, her voice tinged with concern. I’m okay, Antonia replies, a tad too quickly to be totally convincing. But Vivian doesn’t probe further. The landscape of grief is not very inviting. Visitors don’t want to linger. The best thing you can do for the people who love you is to usher them quickly through it. She does not want to become “poor Antonia.”
