The fact that there must be some interplay among all three of these aspects makes it clear that—like a violin or guitar—we must be open enough to be affected or changed, while at the same time we must also be closed off enough to respond effectively with our own voice. A person who, for example, has experienced traumatic violence may henceforth resist or balk at any form of touch or contact, while, conversely, someone who is affected by everyone and everything will lose their ability to hear and develop their own voice.
