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Tara Whitney
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January 17 - March 30, 2023
We’ve been hungry for something more than any amount of food or weight loss can offer. We’ve been hungry for a different way to live.
When uncomfortable feelings start to arise, food offers us safety in our body. Eating offers us a way to feel secure.
When we are afraid to be alone, dieting gives us community to be a part of.
take a look at them, write them down, say them out loud. When we can bring them out from the darkness, they lose their power. It’s only when they stay, creeping where we can’t recognize them, that they drive us.
By blaming our feelings for overeating, we have another way of blaming ourselves for our eating behavior.
Overeating distracts us when we start feeling uncomfortable and don’t want to feel. However, the aftermath of a binge is even more impactful and painful than the feeling we initially may have been avoiding.
Feeling our feelings takes courage, as doing so sends a deliberate message to ourselves that we are okay.
We take each measurement personally, and this has the ability to influence how we feel about ourselves.
When our bodies don’t measure up to where we think they should be, we feel like we don’t, either.
By seeing our body as a one-time gift and not letting a single day pass without treating it with gratitude.
You’ll need to leave the comfort and security of what you’ve known for most of your life. The overeating and undereating patterns. The guilt and shame. Hiding the empty cookie packages and going to bed with an overfilled belly. Even though all of that has been painful, it’s familiar. And it’s human nature to be comforted by the familiar—even if the familiar sucks. Remember when we talked about fear in chapter 4? When we are afraid, we like things to be predictable.
With your relationship with food and your body, it’s not your fault, and it’s also 100 percent your responsibility for changing it.
it’s important that you get curious.
you can make food choices based on different factors, like the taste, how the food makes your body feel, and how much energy you receive from the food.
The five principles of the Connected Eating System are: Awareness Clarity Choice Listening Alignment
Eating without distraction is so critical because our bodies are constantly sending us signals, but we can only hear them when we are paying attention.
As you move to connected eating, your drive to eat when you are not hungry will be a clear signal that you may be wanting to avoid an emotion.
A powerful approach is to set a timer for five minutes and agree that for those five minutes, you will be in your body and experience your feelings. Afterward, you will choose again: either to eat or to continue to be with your emotions.
