Because of this, throughout the majority of my adult life, I experienced every argument, every break-up, every relocation of a friend, every time someone didn’t call when they said they would as life-altering abandonment, rejection, and loss. I was being re-traumatized in every one of those moments and relationships because of the way my early experiences with my mother had imprinted upon me and—unbeknownst to me—predetermined the way that I would be able to establish relationship and connection with others.
