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For Sixes to find the stability they seek, they need to turn to the steady support of their physical presence: to get grounded in the here-and-now.
occupy their bodies more completely. At such times, it is important for Sixes to realize that such physical reactions are the body’s way of processing old fears and hurts
From this position of grounded openness, Sixes are able to recognize the common bonds they share with all of humanity. They feel inclusive and accepting of others, regardless of whether their views or lifestyles are familiar to them.
All human beings need support and security in order to survive, let alone thrive, but seldom do we realize how extensively we are supported.
Sixes achieve transformation by confronting their Basic Fear of being without support and guidance. As they do so, they begin to experience a vast, empty inner space, and they may sometimes feel as though they are falling into it.
PERSONALITY TYPE SEVEN: THE ENTHUSIAST BASIC FEAR: Of being deprived and trapped in pain BASIC DESIRE: To be happy, satisfied, to find fulfillment SUPEREGO MESSAGE: “You are good or okay if you get what you need.” The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Acquisitive, and Scattered
Sevens are enthusiastic about almost everything that catches their attention. They approach life with curiosity, optimism, and a sense of adventure,
They are bold and vivacious, pursuing what they want in life with a cheerful determination.
Their thinking is anticipatory: they foresee events and generate ideas on the fly, favoring activities that stimulate their minds—which in turn generate more things to do and think about.
Their minds move rapidly from one idea to the next, making them gifted at brainstorming and synthesizing information.
Sevens are frequently endowed with quick, agile minds and can be exceptionally fast learners.
make a Seven into the quintessential Renaissance person.
Ironically, Sevens’ wide-ranging curiosity and ability to learn quickly can also create problems for them. Because they are able to pick up many different skills with relative ease, it becomes more difficult for them to decide what to do with themselves.
they also do not always value their abilities as they would if they had to...
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When Sevens are more balanced, however, their versatility, curiosity, and ability to learn can lead them...
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they are out of touch with the inner guidance and support of their Essential nature, and this creates a deep anxiety in Sevens.
They do not feel that they know how to make choices that will be beneficial to themselves and others.
they try to keep their minds busy all...
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since their thinking is stimulated by activity, Sevens are compelled to stay on the go, moving from one experience to the next, searching for more stimulation.
Sevens cope with the loss of Essential guidance by using the trial-and-error method: they try everything to make sure they know what is best.
Sevens do not feel that they can find what they really want in life.
They therefore tend to try everything—and ultimately may even resort to anything as a substitute for wha...
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While they are scrambling after exciting experiences, the real object of their hearts desire (their personal Rosebud, as it were) may be so deeply buried in their unconscious that they are never really aware of precisely what it is.
Sevens end up anxious, frustrated, and enraged, with fewer resources available to them physically, emotionally, or financially.
Sevens are extremely optimistic people—exuberant and upbeat. They are endowed with abundant vitality and a desire to fully participate in their lives each day.
They remind us of the pure pleasure of existence—the greatest gift of all.
Seven’s childhood is flavored by a largely unconscious feeling of disconnection from the nurturing figure (often, but not always, the biological mother).
on an emotional level, they unconsciously decided that they would have to take care of their own needs.
way that children manage the difficult process of separation is by focusing on what psychologists call transitional objects. Having toys, games, playmates, and other distractions helps toddlers tolerate their anxiety. Sevens seem to be still in search of transitional objects.
THE SEVEN WITH A SIX-WING: THE ENTERTAINER
People of this subtype are productive and playful, retaining a belief in life’s goodness and the joy of existence.
Excited by new ideas, fast-talking, witty, and engaging, people of this subtype have high energy and provide moments of high spirits for others.
THE SEVEN WITH AN EIGHT-WING: THE REALIST
People of this subtype truly enjoy the world and are “materialistic” in the broadest sense of the word. They combine quickness with drive, often leading to material success and positions of power and prominence.
People of this subtype apply their energies in many directions, multitasking or even “multicareering.”
Self-Preservation Sevens are determined, energetic people, driven to make sure that their basic needs and comforts will always be met. Their attitudes and concerns tend to emphasize the practical and the material.
They tend to be ambitious and work hard to insure that options will remain open to them.
Self-Preservation Sevens are also classic consumers.
Self-Preservation Sevens fear developing dependencies on others and avoid having others depend on them.
Self-Preservation Sevens can feel impatient and panicky when their needs are not quickly met.
They can be extremely demanding and cranky when frustrated, expecting others to meet their needs as soon as they are expressed—or even sooner.
Social Sevens often cultivate a group of friends and “advisors” who share enthusiasms and interests with them. These people keep the Seven informed of new possibilities and provide the stimulation and variety that Sevens enjoy.
social responsibility begins to feel burdensome—they are caught in a conflict between the desire to fulfill their commitments and the desire to go off and do their own thing.
Social Sevens also resent authority, seeing it as arbitrary and unnecessary—yet another source of social restriction.
Sexual Sevens are constantly looking for something new and beyond the ordinary; like Fours, they tend to reject the mundane.
In all of their activities and interactions, they want to experience the intense charge of being alive.
They love wild ideas, wit, and humor—their minds move very quickly, but this can also cause restlessness with themselves and their relationships.
They fear commitment, preferring the intense feelings of infatuation that occur in the earliest stages of a relationship.
Sevens’ characteristic temptation is the tendency to become dissatisfied with whatever they are doing or are currently experiencing.
This style of wandering attention has far more serious consequences for Sevens since so much of their lives are ruled by it. Thinking becomes anticipating, and they do not stay with anything long enough either to experience it deeply or to get any real satisfaction from it.
