When it comes to your partner or spouse, it’s absolutely miraculous to witness how the more you focus on the qualities they possess that you love, the more those qualities seem to come forward and the less you even notice the things that bug you about them. Sometimes the things that bug you about them actually disappear. Is it because they changed or because your perception changed? I don’t know, but does it really matter? The result is the same.
So true. I hadn’t thought about the why. I just know when I’m frustrated about something that my spouse does, focusing on what I love about him softens me.
