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January 5 - January 8, 2024
(other people’s tasks) and is not something I can control. No matter how much I try to be liked by him, my boss might just continue to dislike me.
“You are not living to satisfy other people’s expectations.” And further, “Other people are not living to satisfy your expectations.” Don’t be afraid of who might be watching; don’t pay attention to other people’s judgment; and don’t seek recognition from others. Just choose the path that is best for you, and that you believe in.
Right. The objective of education, in a word, is self-reliance.
There are two objectives for behavior: To be self-reliant To live in harmony with society
Initially, the parent respects the child, and the boss respects his subordinates. The roles are such that the person standing on the “teaching side” has respect for the person standing on the “learning side.”
Not trying to change or manipulate the other person who is right there in front of you. Accepting that person as they are without setting any conditions.
The Latin Respicio, which is the root of “respect,” has the connotation of “seeing.”
Place value on the person “being that person” without pushing your own value system on them.
enjoy the activity yourself. If you do, the children may at last have the real feeling that they are being recognized; that they are not being treated as children; that they are being given respect as individual human beings.
In other words, we are not creatures who are determined by past events. Rather, we determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those events.
History is a grand story that is continually manipulated by the powers that be of the time.
Every person is a compiler of a story of “me,” who rewrites his or her own past as desired to prove the legitimacy of “me now.”
they are not doing “good things”; they are “seeking praise.”
They adopt a lifestyle, or worldview, in which they are essentially saying, “I won’t engage in proper behavior unless there is someone who will praise me,” and “I’ll engage in improper behavior unless there is someone who will punish me.”
on account of trying to be the good child who is full of promise, they begin to engage in cheating, deceptive tactics and other wrongdoing. Educators and leaders must ascertain the children’s goals instead of focusing only on their actions.
Instead of focusing on whenever a child does some “good thing,” turn your attention to the smaller everyday details of their words and actions. And then focus on and sympathize with that person’s concerns. That’s all.
