Much as we may wish to make a new beginning, some part of us resists doing so, as though we were making the first step toward disaster. Everyone has a slightly different version of these anxieties and confusions, but in one way or another they all arise from the fear that real change destroys the old ways that we have learned to equate to who we are and what we need. To act on what we really want is the same as saying that “I, a unique person, exist.” It is to assert that we are on our own in a much deeper sense than we ever imagined when we were originally setting up shop as adults.
