Yes, people’s behavior can appear to be, and often is, predictable and consistent over time. But the reason for that consistency is not a fixed and unalterable personality. Instead, there are four far deeper reasons, which keep people stuck in patterns: They continue to be defined by past traumas that haven’t been reframed. They have an identity narrative based on the past, not the future. Their subconscious keeps them consistent with their former self and emotions. They have an environment supporting their current rather than future identity.
