The Comparison Cure: How to be less ‘them’ and more you

by Lucy Sheridan

Choosing a compass word At any time, we have the chance to press reset and line up our focus and efforts to meet halfway what we most want. Key to this, however, is staying really aware of and connected to what you are calling in for yourself. As life is so busy for many of us, it helps to be reminded regularly to act and think in accordance with those personal intentions. To help with this, I ask clients to choose a word or phrase to guide them, keep them on track and help them stay present. I call it a ‘compass word’ as it can help them navigate and traverse the conversations, situations and scenarios in their lives that stand between them and what they really want. It works a bit like a traditional resolution but instead of saying, ‘This year I am going to learn to speak French’ – highlighting a task – it’s more like, ‘This year I am going to pursue calm’ – highlighting a general feeling. This word or phrase should sum up the feeling or theme you want the year ahead to follow for you. It will help you show up boldly and yet also help with the seemingly innocuous decisions too.