The Art of Showing Up: How to Be There for Yourself and Your People

by Rachel Wilkerson Miller

Let Yourself Throw Money at the Problem Money can’t solve all your problems or bring back the life you’ve lost, but it can still help a lot—particularly when everyday tasks are turning into giant stressors or huge stumbling blocks. Money can pay for everything from grocery delivery to taxis to a professional house cleaning to the cost of a canceled flight. To paraphrase my friend Meg Keene, there will be times when you think, “I do not care about this thing and I will rip out my eyes if I have to think about it for one more second. Hence, I will throw money at it.”21 When you’re struggling, money pays for convenience, and the ability to be a tiny bit less stressed out. Of course, this won’t always be an option—it obviously requires that you have money, which not everyone does! But if you do have a little money and just aren’t giving yourself permission to spend it, remember the classic Don Draper quote that I will now use completely out of context: “That’s what the money is for!!!”