The Art of Showing Up: How to Be There for Yourself and Your People

by Rachel Wilkerson Miller

Take photos of and with them. Having a couple of photos of yourself that you really like is such a treat. But a lot of folks don’t have any, or have a bunch of selfies they secretly feel kind of self-conscious about. So if a friend is having a great hair day or wearing an awesome outfit, tell them that, and then offer to snap some pics of them. (And take the time to get a shot that they are actually happy with!) And try to take more photos of your people in general when you’re together. Not for posting on social media—just to have. Support their goals. Showing up for friends means not begrudging their efforts when they are actively trying to change for the better. And if you’re feeling snarky or dismissive about your friends’ efforts to improve, remember that it probably has a lot more to do with you than it does with them, and it’s your responsibility to figure out what’s got you feeling A Way.