What to say “You’re right. I have been [doing that thing], and that was [unkind/immature/uncool/shitty] of me. The truth is, I’ve been pretty upset about [thing you’re upset about].” Then—non-defensively!!!—offer an honest explanation for your behavior. This isn’t about justification; it’s about helping them understand how you got here. So, that might be something like . . . “I didn’t have the guts to talk to you directly about it.” “I was hoping these feelings would go away once I had a little time/space to process them.” “I’ve been trying to figure out the best way to handle it.” “I was
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