So coercion looks like being told that you would have sex if you really loved someone. It feels like being afraid to see your partner because you don’t want to keep denying them sex. It feels like, as activist Queenie of Aces writes, making a list of all the reasons you shouldn’t have sex now (not old enough, haven’t been dating long enough, birth control access could be a problem) but never knowing that the real reason—that you don’t want to—is the only one you need.
