One funny thing: At most of the kink parties Selena went to, no one was doing anything that seemed to her to be sexual. People would say, “I’m tying someone up, that’s sex,” but much of the time it didn’t seem to feel sexual and nobody could explain how this made sense. Was tying someone up really sex, or was it a rope and some trust? Selena didn’t care about sex, but she did love rope, so it was unclear what exactly was happening here, and what she actually wanted. Intimacy, as it turns out. Selena cared about intimacy, and kink was a way for her to be intimate with others. Intimacy and sex
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