When people stop viewing sex as the end-all be-all of an encounter, when sex loses its dominance as the most important and intimate thing that could happen, when it becomes feasible to ask directly for what is desired, more ways of relating and connecting become clear. “I’m starting to suspect that the greatest insight the ace spectrum has for sex therapy isn’t identity labels,” writes Anagnori, the ace blogger and therapist, “but making therapists re-examine their assumptions, and expanding their ideas of what ‘intimacy’ and ‘pleasure’ really mean.”
