You get to realizing that your life partner realistically needs to be so many things and sex doesn’t have to be at the top.” Rarely does a perfect correlation between sexual chemistry and relationship quality exist (or last), and the people with whom Alptraum has been most sexually compatible haven’t necessarily been those that were the best for the relationships she wanted. “For me, there’s a baseline of pleasure and there are so many other things about a person that makes them worth it,” she says.
