Allos are sexually repulsed by plenty of people. Many spend the majority of their time sexually indifferent as well. The proportion is usually different—sex-repulsed aces are usually sex-repulsed 100 percent of the time—but adopting this language at a more granular level, to describe feelings day by day and track experience, can be helpful. “Asexuality has taught me a language—a vocabulary for sex-neutral, sex-repulsed, sex-positive, and then I can place myself on that scale for the day and try to initiate sex and try to create a better sense of connection,” says Alicia, an ace scholar with an
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