Let’s take the example of self-confidence. When we talk about it, we find that we have faith in others but not in the self, meaning it is comparative. I study and there is only one way to assess how much I have understood—by giving exams and seeing how well I have scored in comparison to others. We might understand something well and very deeply but the assessment of our understanding doesn’t come from us but is derived as a reaction from others. The kind of house we live in, the kind of jobs we do, the kind of clothes we wear, the kind of food we eat, the locality we live in, the luxuries we
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