I'm a Therapist, and My Patient is In Love with a Pedophile: 6 Patient Files From Prison (Dr. Harper Therapy, #2)

by Dr. Harper

“I’m a spiritual person too. And you know what I’ve found?” Arthur looked at me, waiting for an answer. “Abusive people love to use spirituality and forgiveness to manipulate their victims into accepting more abuse.” “That’s not—” “It’s pretty clever, actually,” I continued. “You can mistreat someone, and then make them feel worse by guilt-tripping and shaming them for the perfectly valid anger they carry. But real forgiveness does not require reconciliation or contact of any kind.”

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“Many trauma survivors can re-tell their stories in vivid detail, a hundred times over, but that doesn’t mean the pain is gone.”

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“I’m playing judge and jury, because I don’t trust that God will deliver justice,” I said. “Which also means I don’t accept the gifts being offered to me along the way.” “Gifts?” he said.

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the thing you have to understand is that our bodies and minds don’t create a ‘detour’ unless we’ve experienced some pretty serious trauma. If we want to get back on the highway, we have to be ready to see the crash.”

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