Folks within community accountability work have described this dynamic in a variety of ways and have developed tools to tease out responsibility and fault. Communities United Against Violence’s (CUAV) “Gems of Change” Pendulum offers a “middle path” between retaliation and minimization. The NW Network of Bi, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse’s “Find Your 6” tool supports users in finding the “six” on a scale of responsibility from one to ten rather than flip-flopping between “zero fault” and “one thousand percent responsible.” This language for describing shame, “overaccountability,
...more
