A third option is what one might call a middle path, where you have one foot in each of the other two options. In this option, you take the game just seriously enough that you cheer when your kid wins a soccer game and feel sad when you don't get a promotion at work. Of course in either case, you don't take either the victory or defeat too seriously, because behind them both you maintain a hint of a smile and this smile symbolizes your understanding that without losing there can be no winning and that every win ultimately depends on a loss.
