Things We Didn't Talk About When I Was a Girl

by Jeannie Vanasco

the problem with highlighting a single memory instead of many memories of a person: suddenly that single memory stands in for that person’s entire being.

Most women know someone who has been raped—usually many someones. It makes me wonder: do most guys know a guy who has raped someone? If not, who is doing the raping? We know it’s not just strangers and guys who end up in jail. It really bothers me that we’re at the same parties. Many of us have the same group of friends, yet the women are the only ones walking away, knowing about the rapes that occur. How’s that possible?’