the most important thing about dating was to remember who I was, not to try and work out who the other person was or what I could do to gratify them. Ultimately, we are all unfathomable mysteries to each other. We are unpredictable and nonsensical and irrational and there is no box-ticking exercise you can possibly devise that will tell you whether or not you will get hurt. We waste far too much time imagining why the other person is acting the way they are, rather than focusing on what we can do to make ourselves happy and meet our own needs.
