Unsafe people will never identify with others as fellow sinners and strugglers, because they see themselves as somehow “above all of that.” This “I’m better than you” dynamic produces a lot of shame and guilt in people who are associated with this type of unsafe person. It significantly blocks intimacy because the two people are never on “even ground,” which is where human intimacy takes place. It sets up comparison, competitive strivings, defensiveness, and alienation.
