connection doesn’t happen at the level of “you’re great, I’m great, let’s be great together.” That’s just boosting each other’s egos, and it holds the same fragility as you only loving yourself when you’re at your best. Real connection is about having the permission to be human with one another. When you give yourself that permission, you also give the other person that permission. At the heart of what we’re looking for is a feeling that, on the deepest level, we are “okay.”
