with Sylvie, he is utterly unselfish, kind, and attentive.” Such virtues are all to the good, of course; but the issue on the table, as Real points out, is how Tom treats Dunn, not how he treats their daughter. And, given the grim realities on this score, her pity is surely misplaced. But it is also understandable—and relatable. When a woman internalizes her putative obligations to care for others at the expense of herself, there is affective as well as behavioral fallout. She is likely to feel guilt and shame for holding a male partner accountable—and, as Lockman points out, to feel an
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