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biblical principles are unchanging, but we’re at different places and we can have a variety of relationship goals within the guardrails that God has set up.
Progression, not perfection
There’s pressure here, but it’s the pressure to get started; it’s not the pressure to get everything right all at once.
I believe God will get you to the place you’re supposed to be. He’ll do it because He loves you and because, whatever else might be going on in your relational life, He is faithful in His relationship with you.
trust Him to bring people into your life who can push you ahead and whom you can push ahead in His plans.
Embrace the season you’re in, thank God for it, and make the most of it.
The more comfortable you are with you, the more people will be attracted to your authenticity and confidence. The more secure you are about your gifts, talents, and calling, the less you’ll feel you have to prove.
We will never arrive at perfection, but we can help the process by entering into a relationship with a clear, honest sense of our true selves and how that truth will affect our future.
You need to learn some things about yourself before you collide your world with someone else’s. It’s important to consider how you process information, resolve conflict, and receive love and how you perceive the world around you while it’s just you and God.
You date in an intentional and holy way. Or you might call it dating with purpose. It’s dating with the end in mind, wanting to do what pleases the Lord.
Find someone who’s going the same direction as you: not perfect but making progress in following Jesus.
Is this making me more like Christ? Or am I a slave to this?
No, God is responsible for lifting both partners up toward Him, together, hand in hand, and He does it gradually, in His own way, over time.
Feelings alone are not enough to help us discern.
What’s the point of finding a marriage partner who will support your purpose if you aren’t going to go after it when you’re married? Some people who are dating get too comfortable and stop thinking about their purpose, and the same thing can happen in marriage; it’s a mistake either way. In marriage, you sacrifice your selfish desires for your spouse, but you don’t give up your God-given purpose. Keep that godly drive burning.
You’ll keep changing as you grow older. So will your mate. You’ll have new dreams and goals. So will your mate. You chose this mate because you believed he or she would be a godly support, and both of you need a marriage that continues to be mutually supportive, with or without kids in the house. So, keep going through the process. Work on your singleness, and date the one you love throughout your marriage.
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs” (NIV).