Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex

by Michael Todd

We live in a world that has more and more relationships and less and less love, more and more sex and less and less intimacy.

A goal is the result or achievement toward which effort is directed.

The truth is, having a goal without aim is senseless, but having a goal without God is pointless.

Your relationship goals can, and actually should, change over time.

life has a way of changing, modifying, and redefining what success in relationship looks like for all of us.

We should follow a plan (directions) that will get us to the goal (destination) that we actually want to reach.

God instructs us, guides us, and teaches us how to aim at the right relationship goals.

The more we seek Him, the more we’ll find out what He wants for us and the more we’ll desire to pursue it. God will help us find the right target for our relational arrows. And it will be better than we could find anywhere else.

challenge you to take some time to really think about your individuality and your special calling in life as you’re praying and thinking about what you’re going to aim for in your relationships.

If you quiet the loud cries of culture, you might just hear the Holy Spirit start whispering to you. That’s my prayer for you.

The best human relationships flow out of relationship with God.

no one is exempt from needing a relationship with God.

don’t allow the pain from your past relationships to make you forfeit your future ones.

close relationship is going to have a huge impact on how well you can fulfill your purpose.

The right person is on the other side of the right purpose.

If I’m here and it’s uncomfortable, it’s for my growth. God is trying to show purpose in my life.

Being engaged is a time to establish habits of praying together as a couple and talking about faith, encouraging each other. This is also a great time to establish community with other couples who are going the same way. When you’re married, you’re going to want to make attending church together a habit and figure out how your quiet time fits in to your schedule together. The thing is, wherever you’re at, you keep your priority but you adjust.

Singleness > Dating > Engagement > Marriage > Love > Children

If your relationship with Him is number one, He’ll take you from wherever you are and move you on to where you need to go next.

Most of us spend so much time hating things about ourselves that we don’t realize we’re crippling our ability to love others.

With the things we hate about ourselves, it would be hard to show favor to someone else who posses those traits because we haven’t dealt with our issues.

Even if you are dating or engaged, you are still technically single.

Totally agree with that and stand by it. I always say, when you file taxes, you list single, when you fill out a form and it says status, you put single. Im single til i get married !!

It’s important to consider how you process information, resolve conflict, and receive love and how you perceive the world around you while it’s just you and God.

It was only after Adam was working in the garden and enjoying contentment and fulfillment in God that He introduced marriage and relationship.

Same with Ruth and Boaz. Ruth was working in the field, Boaz's field, when Boaz saw Ruth.

dating is not supposed to be a destination. It’s supposed to be transportation to where you really want to go.

If he’s not mateable, he’s not dateable.

After all, friendship is the cornerstone of every relationship, and a good friendship is formed over time.

Write down your three greatest fears of being in relationship, and share them with each other.

No matter how old or how experienced you are, if you want to have a pure relationship and not create too strong of a physical tie before marriage, then you need to agree from the outset about what you will or will not do.

pay attention to patterns, not potential.

When it comes to your dating relationships or any relationships, when you invite God into the situation, He’ll give you the desire to do it right and then He’ll fund it—He’ll give you the power to do it in a way that pleases Him.

some of the problems you face are a result of the people you embrace.”

What you place your faith in is more important than how much faith you have.

Is this relationship pushing me away from God or toward Him?

(Romans 6:13).

Your Creator gave your body to you; give it back to Him.

What’s sometimes called “sexual freedom” isn’t free at all. It’s actually slavery to sex. It’s not a casual good; it’s a serious harm.

The Bible is telling us we shouldn’t have anything that’s a master over us except the Master.

“I’m not the sexual sins I’ve committed. I’m not the bad thoughts I’ve had in my head. I’m not doomed to continue being immoral or struggling with guilt and shame. I’m not broken—I’m healed!”

sexual sin is an assault weapon to your purpose, and you need to break it off immediately so that you suffer as little damage as possible.

God can’t heal what you won’t reveal.