Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex

by Michael Todd

A goal is the result or achievement toward which effort is directed. Take away the goal, and what good is the effort? Imagine an archer with a bow and arrow. If he doesn’t have a bull’s-eye target, he can aim and shoot if he wants, but the arrow is not going to hit anything purposeful. So, what’s the point? I’ve noticed that one of the key issues that hinders people from reaching their relationship goals is the fact that they don’t know how to aim.

The truth is, having a goal without aim is senseless, but having a goal without God is pointless.

The more we seek Him, the more we’ll find out what He wants for us and the more we’ll desire to pursue it. God will help us find the right target for our relational arrows.

If you quiet the loud cries of culture, you might just hear the Holy Spirit start whispering to you.

You can usually tell whether a relationship is from God just by looking at this one qualification: Does this relationship help me?

Just don’t go looking for others to give you what only God can—your purpose. Look only to God for that. And trust Him to bring people into your life who can push you ahead and whom you can push ahead in His plans.

To learn to love yourself the way God intended, you have to build a relationship with God, who is love. Remember, your relationship with Him is your ultimate relationship. But then loving yourself means accepting who God created you to be, as hard as that may be for you. It means taking the time to find your fulfillment in Him and realizing that only He can fill the emptiness you feel inside. Stop trying to fit other people into the God-shaped hole in your life.

Singleness is the time for “I”: invest, imagine, and inspire. Invest in what you want to see grow in your life. Imagine what you could be tomorrow if you started today. And inspire others by using everything you have now to make a difference.