Relationship Goals: How to Win at Dating, Marriage, and Sex

by Michael Todd

In other words, Jeremiah had a God-given mission before he even took his first breath. But before you dismiss that as a special case, let me tell you that it’s not just prophets or other unusual people who have a place in God’s plan. We all have God-given, inborn purposes.

As you speculate about relationship goals for yourself, the temptation will be for you to compare what you need and want in relationships to everyone else’s needs and wants.

Even though the top relationship goal we have on our minds right now probably is finding or improving a human relationship, it’s important to see how our relationship with God should come first and above all other relationships. It’s the relationship, our ultimate relationship, and all blessings flow out of that relationship.

You might have an emotional connection or an intellectual connection or just a strong physical connection, but without God that connection isn’t enough.

Godly relationships are about sacrificing for others, showing kindness, having integrity, forgiving one another, and all kinds of other tough stuff like that. To really do those things, I need Jesus.

The best human relationships flow out of relationship with God.

If you and I don’t have our constant source as God, we will always be deficient and not able to give all the grace, give all the peace we should in relationship. We won’t be able to walk in the love of Christ like we’re supposed to.

When we set up a life that is guarded and gated, the Enemy comes to attack us. When we’re isolated, we’re at more risk of listening to lies about who we are and coming to believe them as truth. We all need relationship with people who can remind us of the truth and dispel the falsehood, who can show us some of the love our hearts need, who can help us along our way.

Let me encourage you: don’t allow the pain from your past relationships to make you forfeit your future ones.