You may have noticed several similarities between Emily’s story and mine, but perhaps the most significant one is this: we were both women who discovered and came to terms with our attractional patterns while we were outside of the church. I’m convinced that for both of us, being able to identify our attractions without shame early on has helped us to process them later in a healthy way in Christ. By contrast, many people who grew up in the church did not find it to be a safe place in which to discuss same-sex attraction, let alone admit to experiencing it.
