This is an “accept first” gravity problem because there’s no there there (just like there’s no there there in trying to repeal the law of gravity). Once we accept the problem, we are free to ask John what he really wants, and it’s obvious—to write poetry. That, in turn, can be reframed as having the opportunity to write poetry and perform poetry and to do as much as he can with poetry, thereby maximizing his expression, without worrying about how poetry is going to make money. So a good reframe for John might be: “I’m curious, how might I discover how poets enjoy and sustain their art while
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