Good Morning, Destroyer of Men's Souls: A Memoir of Women, Addiction, and Love

by Nina Renata Aron

So many of our habits come to feel like rituals, but if you think about it, few are truly nonnegotiable.

why. I only know that every day I think I’ll do something different and then I don’t. I set out to do the opposite of this—to make my life the opposite of this—and then discover that this is a decision I seem to have already made.

but more than that I lusted after being lusted after.

She fell in love with what he’d shown her in herself; she mistook that vision of herself for him.

Lori Rotskoff

The thing I have renounced, have tried to set down once and for all, is suffering. Unnecessary pain. A belief system that conflates misery with authenticity. I discovered that I could stop obsessing, stop controlling, stop victimizing myself. I only had to want to, to sit down and learn how.