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March 7 - March 13, 2017
When “but” is tagged on to an apology, it undoes the sincerity.
An apology isn’t the only chance you ever get to address the underlying issue. The apology is the chance you get to establish the ground for future communication. This is an important and often overlooked distinction.
There is no greater gift, or one more difficult to offer, than the gift of wholehearted listening to that sort of pain.
To listen with an open heart and ask questions to better help us understand the other person is a spiritual exercise, in the truest sense of the word.
Don’t act like a lawyer, even if you are one.
Wholehearted listening requires us to quiet our mind, open our heart, and ask questions to help us to better understand.
Distancing is simply one style of managing intense emotions.
Most pursuers would rather be confronted by a strong partner with a clear request for a behavioral change, than be met with silence.
No one aspires to be phony, or to hang out in a relationship where they can’t be real.
Total silence would be a form of distancing.
forgiveness need not be a part of that process when the wrongdoer has done nothing to earn it.
How do you find peace when the hurt you’ve suffered will never be acknowledged or repaired by the one who inflicted it? The answer is as simple as the challenge is daunting. Any way you can.
