I frequently learn that many men and women are not actually talking about forgiveness, although they may use that word. Instead they are talking about their desire to rid themselves of anger, bitterness, resentment, and pain. They want to feel like “a good person” and not like a spiteful, vengeful individual who sits around wishing that their best friend who violated an important confidence, or gossiped behind their back, would suffer some terrible misfortune. “I want to forgive” translates to, “I want to get past this and find some peace of mind.”
